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When Your Child Calls You In #adoptionandrace #adoptionhealing #adoptiontruths #emotionallaborinparenting #griefandgrowth #interracialfamily #parentingforchange #parentingwhiltewakingup #raisingblackchildren #whiteawakeparenting

A white mother came to me recently with tears in her eyes and truth on her heart.

Her teen had said something that stopped her in her tracks:

“Where do I go with my tears when you’re having feelings about the adoption?”

That sentence echoed in her mind like a bell she couldn’t un-ring. Her child ...

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Adoption Starts with Trauma #adoptionandrace #adoptionawareness #adoptionethics #adoptionhealing #adoptionstartswithloss #adoptiontrauma #adoptiontruths #antiadoptionmovement #breakingthenarrative #interracialadoption #lossandlove #motherhoodincomplexity #parentingwisheyesopen #transracialadoption #whiteawakeparenting @secondbestandsacred

Adoption doesn’t begin with love.

It begins with loss.
And sometimes, even earlier, it begins with violence.

Not every baby is conceived in safety.
Not every pregnancy is chosen.
Some children begin their lives in the aftermath of rape, coercion, addiction, abandonment.
Some grow in wombs heavy wi...

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When Equity Gets Complicated #adoptiontruths #adoptiveparenting #antiracistparenting #blackownedbusiness #decolonizeparenting #fasd #fetalalcoholspectrumdisorders #messyconversations #parentingneurodivergence #therapymatters #understandingfasd #unlearningwhiteness #whiteawakeparenting

What I Learned from Blindly Trusting a Black-Owned Counseling Practice

I believe deeply in supporting Black-owned businesses.

As a white mother raising Black children, I know representation matters — not just in books and movies, but in the people who surround and serve my kids. Especially in the ...

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"I'm Not a Savior" - And That's a Good Thing - When Privilege Sneaks Into Parenting #adoptiontruths #adoptiveparentjourney #antiracismparenting #bipocvoicesmatter #deceteringwhiteness #listentoblackvoices #parentingawakening #parentingwithhumility #saviorcomplex #transracialadoption #unlearningprivilege #whiteparensraisingblackchildren

Even thinking of yourself as a “rescuer” assumes someone else needed saving.

That someone else had misfortune. That you’re offering them something they didn’t have.

And the heartbreaking part is - your children feel that imbalance, even if they don't yet have the words for it.

They life in a worl...

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