There’s a shift happening.
You can feel it, can’t you?

Something in you knows:
We weren’t meant to fight forever.
We were meant to create.
To raise a generation that doesn’t inherit our patterns of fear, control, and disconnection.

More and more of us are moving beyond “anti-racism”—
not because...

The other day, my daughter said something that pierced me wide open:

“I want more of you. Less therapy.”

It felt like a wake-up call—not just from her, but from the moment we’re in.

Because we are raising children inside a dying empire.
Inside systems built on domination, control, and fear.
A...

Dismantling Whiteness Without Dismantling My Presence

The other night, my 13-year-old daughter said something that stopped me cold:

“Where am I supposed to go with my feelings?”

She wasn’t just asking a question.
She was naming a truth.
She was letting me know that in a home where I try so ha...

What I Learned About Whiteness, Blackness and Real Accountability

The first time someone said to me, “Yeah, you can’t fuck your way out of racism,” I was stopped cold. It felt like a slap, a truth so sharp I didn’t quite know what to do with it. For three months, it simmered in the back of my mind ...

Adoption doesn’t begin with love.

It begins with loss.
And sometimes, even earlier, it begins with violence.

Not every baby is conceived in safety.
Not every pregnancy is chosen.
Some children begin their lives in the aftermath of rape, coercion, addiction, abandonment.
Some grow in wombs heavy wi...

Oh my god. Trevor Noah has done it again.

I just listened to his new podcast episode—you know, the one where he unpacks the completely imaginary “white genocide” that just ain't happening—and I laughed so hard I had to pull over.

If you haven’t heard the episode yet, pause here and go listen to "T...

It often starts with a story.

Your child walks through the door with a certain look on their face. Maybe they’re quiet. Maybe they’re mad. Maybe they blurt it out while grabbing a snack or kicking off their shoes:

“The security guard followed me around the whole store.”
“This white kid touched m

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If you’re a parent navigating the mental health system, chances are you’ve been introduced to a QMHA — a Qualified Mental Health Associate.

And chances are, no one really explained what that means.
So let me help you out.

First: What is a QMHA?

A QMHA is not a licensed therapist.
They are parapro...

Let’s just name it:
There are not enough therapists in this country to meet the mental health needs of our children.

Not enough for kids with trauma.
Not enough for neurodivergent kids.
Not enough for the kids who are spiraling silently or acting out loudly.
Not enough for your kid.
Not enough for ...

The mental health system is broken. If you’ve ever tried to get support for your child, you already know.

Waitlists stretch for months. Providers are maxed out (I wrote another blog post about the mental health system needing 5x as many child psychiatrists as we currently have). Agencies are scramb...

What if privilege isn’t what we think it is?

What if it’s not just about wealth or power or even access—but about what we haven’t had to see?

I’ve been sitting with this idea lately:
Maybe privilege is just a blind spot.

Not something to feel ashamed of. Not something to feel superior about. But ...

You love your children deeply. You're doing your best to raise them with care, intention and heart. And yes - adopting or raising children of color has changed you in profound ways. But love alone doesn't erase the deeper patterns we've inherited. And when we parent with unexamined bias, our childre...