Reflections in Real Time
Why “I Have Black Kids” Isn’t the Flex You Think It Is
Let’s just say it:
If your go-to defense against racism is “I have Black kids” or “I have a Black friend,” you’ve missed the point.
Yes, I’m a white parent of Black children.
And I’m telling you: that doesn’t give me a free pass.
It doesn’t me...
Parenting is hard. Transracial parenting? It’s a whole different level of navigating love, loss, and learning. White Awake Parenting was born out of my own humbling, heartbreaking, and ultimately life-expanding experience of raising Black children in a world that wasn’t built for them—and of waking ...
When my beautiful, Black children came to me through adoption, I thought love was enough. But very quickly, I realized it wasn’t. Not in a country still deeply scarred by racism, systemic injustice, and unequal power.
If we white parents don’t do the work — if we don’t face our own whiteness, unlea...
It only took 10 seconds for educator Jane Elliott to demonstrate how racism lives in all of us.
She asked a room full of mostly white people:
“If you would be happy to be treated as this society treats our Black citizens, please stand up.”
No one stood.
She waited a moment and repeated the q...
