10 Signs You’d Benefit from White Awake Parenting
Jun 05, 2025Parenting is hard. Transracial parenting? It’s a whole different level of navigating love, loss, and learning. White Awake Parenting was born out of my own humbling, heartbreaking, and ultimately life-expanding experience of raising Black children in a world that wasn’t built for them—and of waking up to the ways it was built for me.
Here are ten signs you might benefit from the support, reflection, and community White Awake Parenting offers:
1. You love your child deeply—but you know love isn’t enough.
You’re starting to realize that while your love is fierce and real, it doesn’t shield your child from racism. You’re ready to back that love with action, education, and advocacy.
2. You’ve made mistakes—and you want to grow from them.
Whether it was brushing off a microaggression or assuming your child would be treated like you were, you’ve said or done things you now regret. You’re ready to learn, not defend.
3. You’re tired of pretending you “don’t see color.”
You now understand that color does matter—and you want to raise children who feel seen, heard, and celebrated in the fullness of their identity.
4. You’ve felt alone in this parenting journey.
Other white parents don’t get it. Black friends expect you to already know. You need a space where it’s safe to unpack whiteness without burdening the very people most harmed by it.
5. You’ve been called out—or felt afraid of being called out.
You’ve been accused of “reverse racism.” Or maybe you hold back for fear of saying the wrong thing. You need a space to sort through the discomfort without collapsing into shame.
6. You’re noticing your child code-switches, hides parts of themselves, or doesn’t feel safe.
You want to understand how to protect their joy, identity, and voice—not just in your home but in the wider world.
7. You’ve started to see how whiteness shows up in your parenting.
Perfectionism, urgency, control. You’re realizing that some of the traits you thought were “just how things are” may be rooted in white cultural norms—and they may be harming your connection.
8. You want to be part of dismantling white supremacy—starting in your own home.
You’re not looking for a checkbox or a savior story. You want to do the slow, sacred work of decolonizing your mind and transforming your family legacy.
9. You’ve hit a wall with traditional parenting advice.
Time-outs, sticker charts, behavioral plans—none of it touches the deeper trauma or systemic injustice your child is navigating. You’re ready to parent from a place of deeper awareness and compassion.
10. You’re longing for guidance from someone who gets it.
Someone who has walked this path. Someone who understands trauma, transracial adoption, and white conditioning—and who can walk beside you with courage and care.
You don’t have to do this alone.
At White Awake Parenting, we believe that white parents of Black and Brown children have a responsibility—and an opportunity—to wake up, show up, and grow up. This work is lifelong. It’s imperfect. And it’s worth it.
If even one of these signs resonates with you, let's talk I’d be honored to support your journey.
Let’s raise our kids—and our consciousness—together.
xox
Marion
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