Reflections in Real Time

Stop Trying to Be the Good White Person #antiracismwork #deconstructingkaren #goodwhitepersonmyth #listentoblackvoices #parentingacrossrace #racialhumility #realnotperformative #unlearningwhiteness #whiteawakeparenting #whitenessisnotinnocence

Let’s just say it:
If your go-to defense against racism is “I have Black kids” or “I have a Black friend,” you’ve missed the point.

Yes, I’m a white parent of Black children.
And I’m telling you: that doesn’t give me a free pass.
It doesn’t me...

"I'm Not a Savior" - And That's a Good Thing - When Privilege Sneaks Into Parenting #adoptiontruths #adoptiveparentjourney #antiracismparenting #bipocvoicesmatter #deceteringwhiteness #listentoblackvoices #parentingawakening #parentingwithhumility #saviorcomplex #transracialadoption #unlearningprivilege #whiteparensraisingblackchildren

Even thinking of yourself as a “rescuer” assumes someone else needed saving.

That someone else had misfortune. That you’re offering them something they didn’t have.

And the heartbreaking part is - your children feel that imbalance, even if they don't yet have the words for it.

They life in a worl...