Reflections in Real Time
First of all a shout-out to Adoption Mosaic, a groundbreaking organization led by Astrid Castro, who describes her beginnings as having been sold on the black market with her sister. Through her leadership, Adoption Mosaic has become a sacred space where adoptees can gather, share their truths, and ...
Imagine a world without spoken language. No chatter, no emails, no news alerts—just the raw experience of being alive. Even for a few moments, this silence shifts your perception. You notice subtle rhythms of energy in a room, micro-expressions, tones, and textures.
Communication is more than words...
Awakened by Adoption: History, Trends and the Voices That Matter
This blogpost explores the hidden history of adoption in the U.S. and its deep ties to race, class, and power. By uncovering these truths, we invite you not only into a deeper understanding of the systems shaping our families, but als...
I’m about to say some things I was scared to even think years ago. But the truth has been pounding in my chest for too long to keep silent. So I’m saying it. For myself. For my kids. For you.
Interracial adoption wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for white supremacy.
I know that sounds like a punch in ...
That’s not just a sentence. It’s a mirror.
Even if you never heard those stories growing up—especially if you didn’t—they’re still part of your legacy.
Even if no one in your family "owned slaves," your lineage may have stood by while others did.
Your country may have built the ships. Traded the bo...
There’s a shift happening.
You can feel it, can’t you?
Something in you knows:
We weren’t meant to fight forever.
We were meant to create.
To raise a generation that doesn’t inherit our patterns of fear, control, and disconnection.
More and more of us are moving beyond “anti-racism”—
not because...
The other day, my daughter said something that pierced me wide open:
“I want more of you. Less therapy.”
It felt like a wake-up call—not just from her, but from the moment we’re in.
Because we are raising children inside a dying empire.
Inside systems built on domination, control, and fear.
A...
When Awakening Feels Like Betrayal
After a hard conversation with their child—one of those moments that lands like a quiet earthquake—a parent found themselves haunted by a single phrase:
“You’re not the villain… but you’re definitely not the victim.”
That sentence rang through their heart li...
A white mother came to me recently with tears in her eyes and truth on her heart.
Her teen had said something that stopped her in her tracks:
“Where do I go with my tears when you’re having feelings about the adoption?”
That sentence echoed in her mind like a bell she couldn’t un-ring. Her child ...
What I Learned About Whiteness, Blackness and Real Accountability
The first time someone said to me, “Yeah, you can’t fuck your way out of racism,” I was stopped cold. It felt like a slap, a truth so sharp I didn’t quite know what to do with it. For three months, it simmered in the back of my mind ...
Adoption doesn’t begin with love.
It begins with loss.
And sometimes, even earlier, it begins with violence.
Not every baby is conceived in safety.
Not every pregnancy is chosen.
Some children begin their lives in the aftermath of rape, coercion, addiction, abandonment.
Some grow in wombs heavy wi...
Oh my god. Trevor Noah has done it again.
I just listened to his new podcast episode—you know, the one where he unpacks the completely imaginary “white genocide” that just ain't happening—and I laughed so hard I had to pull over.
If you haven’t heard the episode yet, pause here and go listen to "T...