Parenting Beyond Anti-Racism and Into a Heart Centered Future
Jul 06, 2025There’s a shift happening.
You can feel it, can’t you?
Something in you knows:
We weren’t meant to fight forever.
We were meant to create.
To raise a generation that doesn’t inherit our patterns of fear, control, and disconnection.
More and more of us are moving beyond “anti-racism”—
not because the work is over,
but because a new way of being is emerging.
We’re ready to parent in a frequency that doesn’t fight the old…
but quietly, clearly, refuses to feed it.
🕊️ We Find Peace by Leaning In, Not Fighting Against
Doing anti-anything work can feel like being whipped around inside a tornado—loud, urgent, disorienting. It demands our attention, our energy, our outrage.
But when we lean in—into the grief, the discomfort, the truth—we sometimes find something unexpected:
The eye of the storm.
A place of deep calm in the center of the chaos.
Not escape. Not denial.
Just clarity.
This is where wiser choices live.
This is where parenting becomes less about reacting—and more about resonating.
White Awake Parenting invites us into that center—not to avoid the storm, but to meet it with presence instead of panic.
🌍 We Were Raised in the Residue of the Old World
Many of us were raised in families where survival came first.
I was raised in the Netherlands, in the residue of World War II.
My parents were children and teenagers during the war—quietly brave, deeply shaped by fear, silence, and the need to rebuild.
Back then, life seemed like an outside job:
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Stay safe.
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Build a future.
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Don’t stir things up.
But now we know:
Life is an inside-out job.
The outer world reflects our inner alignment.
We become what we think about.
Where attention goes, energy flows.
And the future we long for begins not with action—but with conscious thought, followed by feeling, then inspired action, and finally, the circumstances shift.
Circumstances are the last step in manifestation.
So when we focus only on what’s broken, we stay tied to the past.
But when we embody the new… we collapse time and bring it forward.
✨ Ascension Isn’t Escaping—It’s Becoming
This is the deeper truth:
We’re not just parenting through change.
We’re parenting through a consciousness shift.
Ascension isn’t some woo-woo floaty concept. It’s grounded. Practical. Vibrational.
It means raising our state of awareness while remaining fully human.
It means remembering:
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We are energetic beings.
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This is a responsive universe.
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We’re not victims of circumstance—we’re co-creators of it.
And if we want to raise children who are free, we must become parents who are aligned, not reactive.
White Awake Parenting is an ascension practice.
It invites us to:
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Stay calm in the storm.
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Parent from presence, not fear.
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Live in the frequency of what’s next, not the trauma of what was.
🧨 What Trump Reveals About the Old Frequency
It’s tempting to be anti-Trump. To rage against his cruelty, ignorance, and exploitation.
But if we’re willing to look deeper—without flinching—we can see something important:
Trump is the epiphany of whiteness.
He is the loud, unmasked version of what many white people were trained to hide.
He is patriarchy without apology. Supremacy without shame. Capitalism without conscience.
In that sense, he is a gift.
Because he makes the old operating system so grotesquely obvious, we can no longer pretend it’s working.
He doesn’t need our hate—he needs to be outgrown.
He reveals what we must no longer pass down.
And White Awake Parenting is how we ensure we don’t.
We don’t need to raise children who fight like him.
We need to raise children who won’t need to.
🎧 Esther Perel and the Wisdom of What’s Possible
Lately, I’ve been binge-listening to Where Should We Begin, the podcast by Esther Perel.
It feels like I’ve been hanging out with her for weeks.
She doesn’t preach.
She doesn’t polarize.
She simply holds the complexity of what it means to be human—and shows us how to relate from curiosity instead of control.
She doesn’t label herself as anti-racist, yet she brings profound awareness of culture, context, trauma, and love.
She is a teacher of what’s next.
Not against. Not performative.
Just awake.
🔥 We Are Not Anti-Racist. We Are Post-Performative. Pro-Future. Pro-Presence.
So let’s say it clearly:
We’re not abandoning anti-racism.
We’re transcending the fight so we can live in alignment.
We are:
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Post-perfection
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Post-permission
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Post-performance
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Pro-presence
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Pro-future
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Pro-human
We’re not here to pass our children the language of shame or guilt.
We’re here to pass them the frequency of truth, love, clarity, and courage.
We don’t have to fix the world.
We can raise children who don’t recreate it.
✋ Try This: From Inspiration to Integration
Reading about a new way of being is powerful—but living it? That’s where transformation happens.
So before you click away, pause and ask yourself:
What’s one thing I can do—today—to parent in resonance with the future?
Here are three daily practices to choose from. Pick the one that speaks to you most right now:
1️⃣ Tune Your Frequency Before You Speak
Before a hard conversation with your child, partner, or yourself—pause.
Take a breath.
Ask: Am I reacting from fear, or aligning with truth?
Even 10 seconds of stillness can shift you out of the storm and into the center.
2️⃣ Catch the “Anti” and Reframe It
Notice when you’re motivated by opposition:
“I don’t want to raise a racist kid.”
“I have to fix this behavior.”
Then reframe it: What am I for? What am I modeling? What energy do I want to transmit?
This reframe shifts your parenting from performance to presence.
3️⃣ Speak the Future Aloud in Your Home
Every day, say something out loud to your kids—or to yourself—that aligns with the future you’re building:
“In this family, we treat each other like sacred beings.”
“I trust that who you’re becoming is beautiful.”
“We’re creating something new—together.”
Words create worlds. Let your voice be the architect of what comes next.
🎯 Your turn:
Which one will you try this week?
Pick one. Practice it daily. Let it reshape how you show up—not just as a parent, but as a builder of a new reality.
And if you want a guide on this journey, I’m here.
👉 Book a free discovery session with me here.
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